Love & Care – Expectation or Attachment
Today when we all have so much busy & hectic lifestyle just a thought came to my mind, we found it very difficult to spend quality time with our beloveds or our loved ones. More or less we all are doing well in our businesses or jobs, which keep us totally occupied. But the fact is we hardly spent time with each other and even if it is asked by either of the one its becomes a botheration.
We all have our own
deadlines, targets to achieve, we had to meet clients, make sure the deliveries
were done as promised, and also source new clients. We do all this very
efficiently and reliably, but do we ever wonder how much time we spare for our
loved ones, how much time we spend together, Even if some of us do then to it
is more or less to discuss the business, difficulties, tension and other
details.
Do we ever think to find out
the solution for this lack of quality time with our loved ones.
It is very important, this
quality time together. Bonding time is essential for personal growth as well as
for the relationship to grow. The inward as well as outward growth of the
relationship is important. It can happen only when we as an individual decide to
take action.
In earlier times, the man
would go out to work. His timings would be 9-5, after that he was free to spend
time with his family. The lady would be generally a homemaker and they also had
weekends to spend with family. There were designated holidays, and they
wouldn’t work on those days. Life was leisurely and the needs and wants too
were limited.
It is not so now. Those who
work in software companies, their day starts early and ends late. Or the
spouses are on different shifts and they hardly get to meet. Sundays or
holidays are not free days. When a project has to go on time, no one can afford
to take time off. Invariably when one spouse gets home, the other is
sleeping.
This type of working, can sap
the energy and all the free time will be used up in sleeping. I do not say that
software professionals are the only ones with this lifestyle. There are other
job areas where people have to spend longer time at work and less time at home.
After work, relaxation can be
incorporated. One can plan and go on trips together and once in a while get to
chill out. But the bonding between family, friends, lovers and couples. One
has to spare some time for these precious relations for themselves exclusively.
One has to agree on this
commitment and make sure this together time happens. Nothing and nobody gets to
interfere in this quality time. No work, no meeting, no business, no tensions.
Basically one has to find out this leisure time to unwind together and explore
each other mentally, emotionally, as well as morally.
Planning can be done as to how
to spend the time together, can be a movie, wander around in a mall, go for a
leisurely lunch or dinner, go for a long drive or even spend the time at home
with a shared activity. The more fun the activity planned, the more it will be
looked forward to. The anticipation will bring back the zing in the relations.
This time spent together
leads to bonding emotionally, mentally, socially and morally. You get to
explore each other’s thoughts and ideas. You get to understand each other
better. You get to love and cherish your relations.
Sure you will get to know why
your family members, friends or partner behaves in a particular fashion at
times. His/her belief systems, values and attitudes will be an eye opener for
you. His/her family style will let you know what his/her perception of life is.
You can discuss so many things that normally get pushed under the carpet due to
lack of time or mood.
In the fast paced world
today, you need to snatch moments of together time. You need to make it a
priority and be consistent with it. With this time spent together you also get
the motivation to work, Also the more you spend time with your loved ones you
get to know them well, this will secure your relationship will become benefit for
you as an individual. Allow this together time to lead to personal growth,
because you do get enriched when you have your loved ones to support you.
very nice and truth of life
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DeleteA good fact about life..“All you know is what you think you know, but that isn't always what's real.”
ReplyDeleteThanks for your views Gaurav Chopra
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