George
Burns once famously said:
‘There
will always be a battle of the sexes because men and women want different
things. Men want women, and women want men.’
Flirting and
friendship... I have a hard time distinguishing the two. Especially if no one
spells it out. What's the difference? In order to understand this better first
we need to understand what is meant by friendship and what is flirting called.
Friendship
Friendship is an honest
and charming way to get to know other people. You learn to increase your social
activity, sharpen your communication skills, and build self-confidence. It is a
feeling of comfort and emotional safety with a person. It is when you do not
have to weigh your thoughts and measure words, before keeping it forth before
your friend. It is when someone knows you better than yourself and assures to
be your side in every emotional crisis. It is when you can sleep fighting and
get another morning with a better understanding. Friendship is much beyond roaming
together and sharing good moments, it is when someone comes to rescue you from
the worst phase of life. Friendship is eternal.
Different people have
different definitions of friendship. For some, it is the trust in an individual
that he / she won't hurt you. For others, it is unconditional love. There are
some who feel that friendship is companionship.
Flirting
Flirting is meant to be
a positive thing in your life. A nice and a healthy flirt amongst friends by
understanding each-other border lines is always good, but the worst part is
that now a days in real life or our virtual worlds as well the ‘Flirting’ has
become a social intercourse instead of a
friendly conversation. We all flirt differently (or maybe similarly), but
everyone I know seems to have a slightly different definition. Some of my
friends just say "touching the other person slightly, holding hands,
etc.," which is what I view as "obvious cheap flirting". Other
friends tell me that it entails laughing at people, smiling a lot, or making conversation.
Well...does that mean I flirt with my friends?
The key to friendly
flirtation is lightheartedness and subtlety. Two people who flirt often will
likely have a rhythm to their interactions; it’s like a routine. This type of
play has underlying and unsaid boundaries that maintain a friendly feel.
Friendship
vs Flirting
Now let us come to the
point I stated above the comparison or the difference of these two in present
world be it is real or virtual. People has now changed the definition of
friendship for men if any of the female is little open-minded or friendly she
becomes easy available prospect for exploitation for them. Now days for any man
if a girl likes to spend time with him or talk more that means, she has a
liking for him or loving him, that thereafter the start taking undue advantage
of this relation. Here am not saying it is not a case with men there are few
exceptional in females as well who are sailing in the same boat.
We all have to
understand the importance & difference of these two relations and act
accordingly. Else as humans some day we would stand on the verge of all fake
relation, which involves more of using each other for benefits or pleasure
instead of enjoying, creating or cherishing these lovely friendly moments.
Nice compero ma'am.
ReplyDeleteBut here I want to put a point that is sometimes girls too misunderstand their male friends. Not every man, who extends his hand to stand and offers his shoulder to let the tears out, wants the girl to be in relationship with him.
However I strongly agree with you on knowing the difference between Real and Fake relations.
Thanks for sharing. :)
Very thought provoking post
ReplyDeleteNice read
:)
And I do agree with Anjit..sometimes even girls misunderstand boys