Monday 22 May 2017

Forever Just You & Me

Forever Just You & Me




I can’t explain the way I feel for you...
With all my words which I say or actions I do...,
I don't know if you can really see...
That you mean everything to me...,

You're the one I've been looking for...
And now I've got you I won’t look anymore...,
I'd never cheat & would never lie...
Because I don't want what we have to die...,

I hope whenever I see you my heart beats fast...
Like it does now, I hope this feeling lasts...,
I can't imagine wanting to see your face...
Or that being without you will be my better place...,

If I'm upset or feeling alone...
I run to your arms and with you.., I'm at home...,
Happiness and smiles are all that you bring...
I know this is real love, not a school-girl fling...,

I can't wait to spend each day together...
I can't wait till you say me and you is forever...,
I love you, I'll keep saying it so you'll see...
You're my one and only love, it's forever you and me...


Deep

Tuesday 16 May 2017

BOOK REVIEW - “LOVE THAT FEELS RIGHT BY RAVINDER SINGH”

BOOK REVIEW - “LOVE THAT FEELS RIGHT BY RAVINDER SINGH”




​ Inadvertently I am the one who enjoys reading romance more than any genre for that matter when it comes to reading.

The story revolves around Naina Singhania, a typical Indian rich housewife and Aarav, a gym trainer. Life gets twined when these two meet each other.

Malvika, their common friend saw a spark in them but both were struggling between their desires. Why? Because Naina being married already. Naina is ready to call off her wedding. Not for Aarav but for herself as she feels her love is right.

Malvika who is in a relationship with someone out of her marriage but she has told her husband. The concept is unique and weaved into an engaging story. There are places in the story which will leave you to question yourself how Love knows no limits and rituals. This Love that Feels Right by Ravinder Singh, will shake every belief you’ve ever had about the emotion called Love. The story which would touch millions of hearts. The heartrending love story which drives home the point ‘love is powerful and it will make you do things that you have never done before.’ Indeed the climax was quite interesting with twists and turns as they unfold. For that, you need to read this book.

Now my Positive viewpoints:

The positives of the story are the characters easily identifiable. Even though the narration is again easy to read and allows us to easily go through the entire story, the story sways through various emotions and makes the readers feel along with it. And the author gracefully blends dollops of wisdom throughout the story. Like these lines, He keeps the storyline entirely simple, yet elegantly intersperses it with rich emotions.
Some suggestive points:

Although the narration of the story is good but in my opinion, the explicit descriptions went over the top. However, I was not convinced by several actions of the characters in the book. At times, it felt that they were manipulated to satisfy what author has in his mind. This brings me to another major issue with the book. I simply could not connect with any character. They are plain and monotonous characters who don’t have a life.

Final words:


Overall if asked I would say this is not a fair job done by the author, the book has got very little to offer in that overstretched context. It has his signature explicit descriptions of the intimate moments. Overall I would say...this is not a good job done by Author (Ravinder Singh) … I would give 3 stars to this book.

Saturday 13 May 2017

जज़्बात...



सब भूल जाती हूँ तेरी फिक्र में खुद भी भूल तो..,
नहीं जताती फिर तुझको ए बेख़बर...!

दूर होने लगती हूँ.., जिस पल तुझ से...,
याद तेरी बहुत...,उस पल कसम से आती हमे...!


जो पूछे कभी है...,तुम्हे हमसे मोहब्ब
​​
त कितनी...,
नज़रें चुरा के.., बात बात बनते क्यों हो...!

भुलाए बैठे है...,हम खुद को तेरी मोहब्बत में...,
और तुम ना जाने क्यों...जज़्बात छुपाते हो...!!!

दीप 

Thursday 11 May 2017

Questionnaire with Bhavya Kaushik



So, for this month  we have a  writer   "Bhavya Kaushik" 



Can you tell us a little about yourself? Your profession and your hobbies!!


Ever since I was a kid, I found it a little hard to fit myself into a “description”. I think I’m at a still point of a moving world. I’m a constellation of these millions of people that are living inside me. I’m a stargazer, a dreamer, a writer – and everything else in between. Writing for me is more than just a passion. It’s a way of living.

I can’t simply go through every notion of life without living. I work as a full-time writer. As hard as it can get sometimes to make others understand – writing can be your full-time job as well. I think I’m one of those fortunate souls who are able to make a fulfilling profession out of something they love.






Questionnaire with Bhavya Kaushik

1.     How did you first get involved in with writing, are you an imaginative person?

I started writing when I was in grade VII when my teacher insisted me to come up with an original piece for a poem recitation competition. The process of it was so cathartic. There was certainly no looking back since then. I started maintaining my blog and my journal ever since. I wrote my first book when I was 18. Even though I didn’t get it published, it made me learn a lot.

My first book was published when I was 22, and the response was overwhelming. After a while, I decided to do this on a full-time basis. I want to make a difference in this world with my words. One day, I think I’ll get there. Regarding imagination – I think I’m an imaginative person. At least I hope so! I think all writers are pretty imaginative. We need a constant source of inspiration to write and our imagination is something that keeps us running.


2.     What do you find most challenging about your writing?

Frankly speaking, nothing at all! If you love writing, then you can never find it challenging. One should be vulnerable while writing their best of pieces. Too often, I see people hiding their own self while writing, which should always be avoided. Writing is such an integral part of me. I don’t know if it is the oxygen or my words that keep me running. I can’t live without it. For me, writing is something as effortless as breathing.



3.      What do you do when you are not writing?

I like to travel – a lot, which helps me see my world from a whole different perspective. I’m a bibliophile. I’m either reading, writing, traveling – or doing all of these things together at times.


4.     Where do you see yourself in the next 6 months, and 5 years down the road?

Writing – hopefully. I think I would have visited a few more places 6 months down the lane. Five years is something! I believe I would outgrow myself as a writer and as an individual by then. I want to create a difference in this world. I think I would be able to take an initial step to make things better for someone else.


5.     How do you keep coming up with material/content for your story?

I keep on reading stuff and always try to stay at the top of my game. I keep myself updated with all the recent activities that happen around us. Most significantly, I try to interact with as many people as I can. I think all of us have a story. We all are bestsellers in ourselves. I never try to write a book or a story. I write characters instead. I believe in depicting unadulterated human emotions, which can never happen if you lay your focus on your story. Always try to write true and honest characters rather than any run of the mill story. It always helps me keep coming up with different genres of writing.


6.     Any specific tips you have for new writers who want to make it big in the world of published books?

You can’t make everyone happy. There is no such thing as perfection. Chances are that you are going to disappoint a few people. There would always be someone who won’t like your work. Keeping your reader’s opinion and perception in mind is one thing, but you can’t simply write to please them. Write for yourself. As long as you are able to satisfy your emotions, nothing else should matter. Keep every constructive review in mind. Try to learn from others authors. But never write to please them. You are not supposed to write for anyone else. You have to do it for yourself – for each and every cell of your being. It is your prerogative.



7.     What’s the best thing a writer can give to his readers?

When we write a book, we give an opportunity to our readers to change their entire life. I think this is the best part about writing. You can create a difference in someone’s life. As a writer, you can give your readers plenty of things. You can inspire them and even help them get better. But most significantly, you can give them hope.

I remember a few years back, I was at an event and a woman came to me to congratulate me for my work. She had a story. I could see her in her eyes. After a while, she told me how she lost her husband earlier that year. I could feel her pain as she narrated the incident. According to her, she was not able to come out of her depression until she read one of my books (The Other Side of The Bed).

“I was not able to say goodbye to him, but your book helped me move on. It gave me the kind of closure I never thought I would get. It gave me a hope to live and I can’t thank you enough for that.”
The moment she said those words, I realized I have made a difference in someone’s life. It was more than what I could have asked for.

8.     A lot of people are interested in writing for the money earning potential. What are some tips for people interesting in making money from writing? What are some realistic expectations in regards to what can be made?

I think writing is an excellent career alternative. It is my bread and butter. I do this for a living and I have never been so happy in my life. Earlier this year, I left my full-time job and I would do it again in a heartbeat. It has been such a life-changing experience for me. I work as a freelancer and there are plenty of sources for me to earn as a writer. Yes, writing books is a big part of it. I would say that you should take it one step at a time.

Rome was not built in a day, right? Don’t just leave what you are doing right away to do this on a full-time basis. Take baby steps and get there in time. I left my job when I was able to make more money from my writing than my corporate profile. It is a very important factor. With writing, the sky is the limit. You can literally earn as much as you want.

9.     What motivates you most in life?

My people are my biggest motivation. I always try to surround myself with my loved ones. My family and friends are one of my major driving forces. They are my biggest inspiration.

10.The majority of the readers tend to take sides due to religion and such other considerations.

It’s quite sad to know that. I strongly believe that writing is a work of art and it can be subjective in nature. No one writes a book to offend anyone. We should read it with an open perspective and not let religion or any other belief hinder our reading experience.


11.What is the story behind the name of your book?

I try to walk an extra mile to come up with exciting names for my books. The Other Side of The Bed is the story of a widower who lost his wife in a serial bombing attack. He found it hard to fall asleep on the other side of the bed, where his wife used to sleep. In a way, the entire novel revolved around that empty side of the bed, which shaped the title.

The Infinite Equinox is the story of a girl who had an “almost” life. She never had a perfect day. It was an equal mix of the good and the bad. Symbolically, every day of her life was an equinox (the time of the year when the night and the day are of an equal duration). So, in a way, her entire life was a recursion of the equinox. An Infinite Equinox, to be precise.

12.What are your views on increasing plagiarism?

I can’t understand the motive of copying someone else’s work. You can’t call yourself a writer if you are not able to generate original and relevant content. It is okay to get inspired from someone else’s work sometimes, but you can’t plagiarize it. It’s wrong on so many levels. Just don’t do it. Be true to who you are. If you are true to yourself, then you don’t need anything else.


Thanks a lot for these thoughtful questions, Dipali. I had a great time answering them and was able to relive my journey as a writer all over again. Thank you, for giving me a moment like this!

Sunday 7 May 2017

Changed roles of Today's Women

Changed roles of Today's Women



Over and over again anger against each other is the most typical indicator. Anger is always an expression of hurt and pain within. It is very imperative to comprehend and recognise. The hurt must be soothed for the anger to be gently washed away.

Indian women who express anger and lack of enthusiasm towards family members feel that they are not being valued an adequate amount by other family members for the effort they make. Their observation of themselves and their role in the family tends to be different from what other family members expect out of them.

Today Indian women work in challenging settings with long work hours, tight deadlines and professional pressures in cut-throat environments. The expected inclination for anyone dealing with a busy day would be to turn home to relax. But for women, parenting duties and household work make it complicated to find this legroom at home.

Often for the elderly members of the family, the Indian woman’s conventional role – that of a homemaker is of primary importance. Which in turns means she probably doesn’t get her time out even after returning home on most days? This as expected creates annoyance and over a period of time, anger and despair. Slowly but surely, the woman’s being unable to contribute as much at home is talked about, discussed and emphasized upon much more than the efforts she puts in at work. What she is unable to do gets unintentionally more focused on than what she slogs at. She then feels her family is being unfair to her and feels angry and rejected.

Furthermore, the woman herself has been exposed to norms which tell her that she must take on household responsibilities and be accommodating of her husband’s, children’s and in-laws’ requests. She also feels at fault for not being able to fulfill their expectations, disillusioned because she feels like she’s struggling alone and finally very negative and let down.

Other family members also grapple with their own struggles. Since the husband also works in a characteristically demanding setting like his wife, he is better positioned to understand her need to relax at home. However, he feels caught up between his wife and his parents and other family members. He has his own equation with his parents that dates back to a time when his wife wasn’t around. In turns, it becomes difficult for him to step in. As a result, the woman feels her husband takes sides or is by and largely unable to support her. This leads to disagreement between the couple, where both feel the partner is unable to help or understand them.

It’s also understandable why the elders have different expectations. They had a different life, with fewer facilities and a very different work environment to face. This generation gap brings us again to a no win situation.Despite the fact that the children of the house may not be directly involved in the situation, often we find that the parents in such a set-up are not able to be there psychologically for the children even though they want to because a lot of energy is spent in trying to resolve the struggles at work and within the family.

Often suggestions from others like ‘these things happen, what to do’ or ‘you need to adjust a bit, they have old ideas so accept it’ is common. However, even if this is inevitable and happens in a good number of homes, we still need to deal with it. Merely blaming each other and thinking ‘you will never understand’ doesn’t make things any easier. Unless each one of us chooses to actively work on ourselves for our own happiness, the negativity continues to stay in our systems, taking some joy out of the day, every day!

The majority of us, unknowingly, have a propensity to grumble and not express. Complaining focuses on the opposite person. We use sentences like, ‘you are unkind’, ‘you don’t understand me’, and so on. Expressing focuses on ourselves or the ‘I’. When we are expressing, we use sentences like ‘I feel tired when I return from work, ‘I feel I must help when I see mom-in-law cook’, and so on. Without a doubt expressing what you think and feel about yourself is a much healthier way of communicating than focusing on the opposite person.


Inspite of knowing how much our mind and body can take, we over and over again don’t respect the limits of our own ability. While dealing with issues in the family, it is important not to abandon yourself. You are an essential part of the family and if you are exhausted and tired, even for the sake of living up to others expectations, it isn’t really going to make anyone happy. Be kind-hearted and gently caring for yourself. Accept your tiredness and stop when you need to. Not doing so leads to complying irritably or guiltily with others’ requests and then blaming them.

Your family doesn’t find fault with you only because they want to, they do it also because they identify with things differently from you. Your in-laws probably want you to do housework not because they hold it against you, it’s because they consider that household duties are to be designated to the woman of the house. Despite the fact that it would be naturally painful for you to hear them complain, not taking their nagging in person as an attack on you would help.

Be aware of that you cannot have power over how others act in response to you; you can only try and have some control over your own response. Just as you accept your limits and stop when you are tiring yourself out, similarly you accept the limits of your family members and their feelings about you. To make receiving work, try not to judge who is right or wrong but as an alternative attempt to neither blame yourself nor anyone else in the family for the tricky situation. Chances are this will eventually reduce the tension in the family environment over time.

Mindfulness is a simple perception of living life as it is, of being in the present. If you think about it, the complaints and arguments with family members last for a limited degree of time, maybe when you come back from work. We unintentionally upset so many other moments of our life by worrying over it and complaining to ourselves!

Being in the present allows you to know-how these other moments as they are. It means noticing how the bread packets have been shifted to another shelf in the shop, how your child has managed to solve profit and loss correctly, how the little plants swing when the train passes by them. Whenever you catch yourself thinking away about something, gently remind yourself of where you are. Take a few breaths, and feel your breath as it enters and leaves you. Feel the breeze as it caresses you. You will in due course realize the treasure chest of moments that are not really problem ridden, that are fairly nonaligned, but positive.