Monday 22 October 2012

Book Review – ‘By losing You I found how much I needed You’ by Dr Rachit Bhushan

 ‘By losing You I found how much I needed You’ by Dr Rachit Bhushan
This is the debut novel by Dr Rachit Bhushan.. and when I got my copy of his book I was not able to hold myself to start with the journey of  “Rachit n Pari”.

 This is a story about two strangers, a journey of  ‘Rachit & Pari’, ., who met as acquaintances in ‘Rachit’s sister marriage but happen to fall in love….. their love was so passionate so innocent, they were by each others side in all thik & thins of life..till they  part . Dr Rachit Bhushan, who  is a doctor turned writer has been felicitated by the Indian Medical Association for his book and his novel also is recommended by the cricketing maestro Mr. M. S. Dhoni.

The story of Rachit and Pari moves further with different twists and turns by virtue of destiny in it….to know how and what one has to read ‘By losing You I found how much I needed You’.
Now my Positive viewpoints:
This is the debut novel of Dr Rachit Bhushan whose tagline is this book is not a chick lit love story  or a Mills and Boons romance. It is a relation between two strangers who never meet in their whole life, yet they possess a beautiful bonding between them. Dr Rachit Bhushan has done a good job and justification to this love story. I just loved the way he has mentioned his characters (Rachit’s parents, his sister, his friends, Pari’s family and friends Rads and all) which seem lively enough. He has explained the beauty of Nepal so well that it seems flashing in front of readers while reading the book. Also he has explained the practicality of the metropolitan cities very well and the nature of people out here.., as some are really helpful and some will be just acquaintances, nothing more then that. He has explained the chemistry, the bonding between ‘Rachit & Pari’ really well.

The way  ‘Rachit & Pari’ used to talk on phone without the knowledge of their parents and the way they have sent gifts to each other on their birthdays was so very romantic. The problems faced by Rachit during his medical training and the way Pari has always supported and guided him, shows her caring nature towards him. These are some indescribable feelings.

Indeed I would agree with MS Dhoni (Captain of Indian Cricket Team), this book is a reflection of the common man’s story. This story of Rachit & Pari has been described very beautiful and emotional. I really felt miserable  when Rachit got his leg fractured. This a sweet, romantic love story of Rachit & Pari but has a tragic end to it ,and only the day when Rachit would meet Pari probably then  the unanswered questions will be answered.
Some suggestive points:
Although the book’s end shows a different aspect of Life & Love which is a tragedy … in general a reader always expects a happy ending or a settled future for both, in their respective lives..

I would Like to state few more things as a bit of synchronization need to done,  because on some places a reader is taken back in flash back of the story which is Rachit’s childhood, his school days, and immediately in next chapter Rachit is talking about his current state in his life. These things makes a reader lose his/her interest in book. A bit of flow of the story needs to be taken care. Also a little stringent proof reading is required. But these are just suggestions….

Final words:

Friday 19 October 2012

Friendship vs Flirting

George Burns once famously said:

‘There will always be a battle of the sexes because men and women want different things. Men want women, and women want men.’

Flirting and friendship... I have a hard time distinguishing the two. Especially if no one spells it out. What's the difference? In order to understand this better first we need to understand what is meant by friendship and what is flirting called.


Friendship is an honest and charming way to get to know other people. You learn to increase your social activity, sharpen your communication skills, and build self-confidence. It is a feeling of comfort and emotional safety with a person. It is when you do not have to weigh your thoughts and measure words, before keeping it forth before your friend. It is when someone knows you better than yourself and assures to be your side in every emotional crisis. It is when you can sleep fighting and get another morning with a better understanding. Friendship is much beyond roaming together and sharing good moments, it is when someone comes to rescue you from the worst phase of life. Friendship is eternal.

Different people have different definitions of friendship. For some, it is the trust in an individual that he / she won't hurt you. For others, it is unconditional love. There are some who feel that friendship is companionship.


Flirting is meant to be a positive thing in your life. A nice and a healthy flirt amongst friends by understanding each-other border lines is always good, but the worst part is that now a days in real life or our virtual worlds as well the ‘Flirting’ has become a social intercourse instead of  a friendly conversation. We all flirt differently (or maybe similarly), but everyone I know seems to have a slightly different definition. Some of my friends just say "touching the other person slightly, holding hands, etc.," which is what I view as "obvious cheap flirting". Other friends tell me that it entails laughing at people, smiling a lot, or making conversation. Well...does that mean I flirt with my friends? 

The key to friendly flirtation is lightheartedness and subtlety. Two people who flirt often will likely have a rhythm to their interactions; it’s like a routine. This type of play has underlying and unsaid boundaries that maintain a friendly feel.

Friendship vs Flirting

Now let us come to the point I stated above the comparison or the difference of these two in present world be it is real or virtual. People has now changed the definition of friendship for men if any of the female is little open-minded or friendly she becomes easy available prospect for exploitation for them. Now days for any man if a girl likes to spend time with him or talk more that means, she has a liking for him or loving him, that thereafter the start taking undue advantage of this relation. Here am not saying it is not a case with men there are few exceptional in females as well who are sailing in the same boat.

We all have to understand the importance & difference of these two relations and act accordingly. Else as humans some day we would stand on the verge of all fake relation, which involves more of using each other for benefits or pleasure instead of enjoying, creating or cherishing these lovely friendly moments.

Monday 15 October 2012

Real world vs virtual world

The way communication in the virtual world can affect behavior in real life was the starting point for my blog today.

We writers have always been observers, tucking away incidents and anecdotes in mental notebooks knowing, they might be the seed from which future writing grows.

When I was writing regularly for the next blog. I did this all the time, letting ideas simmer away at the back of my mind before I retrieved them and turned them into a blog. In doing so, am almost always a wittier, more clever woman than the real me  here and now because I had the time to polish the words through which she was shown.

Virtual world

Virtual Reality is considered one of the most exciting technologies today, constantly evolving and improving. Now electronic media has turned more people into writers, bloggers, tweeters, facebookers  . . . These media enables them not just to chronicle what’s happening to them but to do so almost instantly. There is a danger that in doing that people could let the real world becomes less important than the virtual one, for which it provides inspiration and let the virtual one shape the real one. Like many other phenomena, social networking can be a force for good if you use it wisely and well or a force for ill if you don’t.

Technology is the process through which human beings and machines interact and, therefore, create culture. The online shopping sites innovation actually affords the speed and convenience of online shopping with the feel of a brick and mortar store, and in doing so, sits in between physical and virtual spaces.

Beginning with the Internet revolution of the ‘90s through the development our lives have continually expanded to occupy virtual spaces. In Second Life, we bought virtual houses with real money; when playing Farm-Ville, we wake up in the middle of the night to save our virtual grapes from rotting.

Real World

In reality if we move out of our virtual world and spare some time to meet real people and interact with them. there will be a new learning to an individual. Interaction to humans always opens new dimensions for us , in terms of experiences, opportunities, learning. This will also work as a stress buster for us. We all have different pressures in our lives, work, family and career. When we meet people personally and spend some quality time we tend to know and discover the different aspects of human nature. We feel relaxed and revived after a short vacation: in the same manner when we meet new people and interact, we feel refreshed and full of  positive energy.

What I personally feel we all should take a break from our hectic routines to come out of our virtual lives and spare some time to meet real people, make real friends or rather we may also plan and meet our virtual friends in reality to know each-other better.

At last I would state here...I have experienced this personally  recently and trust  my friends out there…that was indeed a memorable experience for me…

Friday 5 October 2012

Today’s Entertainment Industry

Since the 50's, the entertainment industry has developed very fast. Technology has not stopped developing because of higher demands from people over time. Due to these changes, there are many problems surfacing in the entertainment industry. Some attribute the immoral climate spreading out in society to entertainment products, which, they say, need to be restricted or controlled.

I understand that entertainment products reflect society and the need to go on following the demand from people. Although, at the same time entertainment shouldn't be restricted or controlled by government till the time is it not crossing the norms and values of our society.

There are many differences in looking at the effects of entertainment products on people. Over here what I am trying to say is, , along with the positive effects these entertainment products are also imparting negativity amongst society by making violent products more popular in society; moreover, they become the fondness of people nowadays. Because of this, crime , attack on sex and violence are becoming a popular culture.

However, the effects of entertainment products on people are visible enough now days and there have been evidence that proves that there is  an influence on people by entertainment products. In other words, entertainment can be combined with education to make a better society. Nevertheless, by the other solution the entertainment industry will simultaneously develop with society. The truth about society will be shown, and from this people can be aware of the value of life.

However, the entertainment industry should develop by itself because viewers and listeners will evaluate and eliminate. That means producers have to meet the demands of the people. On the other hand , the solution can make the entertainment industry develop better and better.

Violence in entertainment

Does violence in media affect people? Violence is a common sight in media today whether it is seen on the television, Internet, or heard on the radio. Violence is all around society. It is what many people want to see. Some of these same people want to act out the violence they are witnessing. Yes, I believe that violence in media affects people. It affects how people think, act, and speak. Some of people’s actions are more affected by others, but the fact is that it still affects people. Violence affects how people think, how they react to certain situations, in a violent manner, because of what they have seen or heard. If someone is watching a television show and he or she sees an actor react violently in a certain situation, then they might think and believe that a violent reaction is the way to go. They may think that since it’s  the TV, the person is acting.

Advantages and disadvantage of entertainment

There are many advantages and disadvantages of the entertainment industry but a few are:

If you are in a bad mood, you would obviously need someone to cheer you up and if you are bored and you need entertainment, the TV provides you with different activities and other things that  entertain you.

And the disadvantage of the entertainment industry is that sometimes it gives out so much of the information that it is sometimes inappropriate for children. For example live TV shows include strong language.