Friday 19 October 2012

Friendship vs Flirting

George Burns once famously said:

‘There will always be a battle of the sexes because men and women want different things. Men want women, and women want men.’

Flirting and friendship... I have a hard time distinguishing the two. Especially if no one spells it out. What's the difference? In order to understand this better first we need to understand what is meant by friendship and what is flirting called.


Friendship is an honest and charming way to get to know other people. You learn to increase your social activity, sharpen your communication skills, and build self-confidence. It is a feeling of comfort and emotional safety with a person. It is when you do not have to weigh your thoughts and measure words, before keeping it forth before your friend. It is when someone knows you better than yourself and assures to be your side in every emotional crisis. It is when you can sleep fighting and get another morning with a better understanding. Friendship is much beyond roaming together and sharing good moments, it is when someone comes to rescue you from the worst phase of life. Friendship is eternal.

Different people have different definitions of friendship. For some, it is the trust in an individual that he / she won't hurt you. For others, it is unconditional love. There are some who feel that friendship is companionship.


Flirting is meant to be a positive thing in your life. A nice and a healthy flirt amongst friends by understanding each-other border lines is always good, but the worst part is that now a days in real life or our virtual worlds as well the ‘Flirting’ has become a social intercourse instead of  a friendly conversation. We all flirt differently (or maybe similarly), but everyone I know seems to have a slightly different definition. Some of my friends just say "touching the other person slightly, holding hands, etc.," which is what I view as "obvious cheap flirting". Other friends tell me that it entails laughing at people, smiling a lot, or making conversation. Well...does that mean I flirt with my friends? 

The key to friendly flirtation is lightheartedness and subtlety. Two people who flirt often will likely have a rhythm to their interactions; it’s like a routine. This type of play has underlying and unsaid boundaries that maintain a friendly feel.

Friendship vs Flirting

Now let us come to the point I stated above the comparison or the difference of these two in present world be it is real or virtual. People has now changed the definition of friendship for men if any of the female is little open-minded or friendly she becomes easy available prospect for exploitation for them. Now days for any man if a girl likes to spend time with him or talk more that means, she has a liking for him or loving him, that thereafter the start taking undue advantage of this relation. Here am not saying it is not a case with men there are few exceptional in females as well who are sailing in the same boat.

We all have to understand the importance & difference of these two relations and act accordingly. Else as humans some day we would stand on the verge of all fake relation, which involves more of using each other for benefits or pleasure instead of enjoying, creating or cherishing these lovely friendly moments.



  1. Nice compero ma'am.
    But here I want to put a point that is sometimes girls too misunderstand their male friends. Not every man, who extends his hand to stand and offers his shoulder to let the tears out, wants the girl to be in relationship with him.
    However I strongly agree with you on knowing the difference between Real and Fake relations.
    Thanks for sharing. :)

  2. Very thought provoking post
    Nice read
    And I do agree with Anjit..sometimes even girls misunderstand boys